We give our kids full autonomy over decisions parents usually control, like when to go to bed. It helps my family thrive.

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Parenting in my house doesn't look like it does for most families. My children and I are all autistic, with ADHD and anxiety also in the mix for a couple of us. Our home is often lively and loud, but we all have fluctuating capacities and diverse needs. We found that parenting with an emphasis on autonomy is essential for all of our well-being. Here's how we landed here.