Even though my parents would have been amazing grandparents, it wasn't the right reason to have kids

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I never thought "making my parents grandparents" would be at the top of my list when weighing the pros and cons of having a baby. But I never thought I'd have to make a list, either. Nearing 40, I kept waiting to feel strongly one way or another. When that "you just know" moment never came, I sat down with a pen and pencil and hoped clarity would come.